For as long as I can remember I have a hard time letting things go. From drawings, notes, shoes, clothes to letting go off feelings of hurt or love. I always keep, keep and keep.
Letting go is essential in so many ways in life. One of the best examples I know that illustrate the need to let go is this. Have you ever watched a child playing with a toy and then suddenly they spot a ball or something else that sparks their interest? Most children will do what we all do as adults today, they will try to grab that ball so they have both, the toy and the ball, because mentally you have convinced yourself one is not enough. In the child's case, on most occasions, they will fail to grab both because their hands are too tiny and fragile, so after trying several times they will choose one and be happy with having just the one.
As adults we all have hard times letting go of something we no longer need, or something we know is harming us in some way, so we hold on. Every time I buy a computer to design my clothing on I don't get rid of the old, in case I need it one day and also because I don't remove all my designs and data from it so I cant get rid if it. So I have about 5 computers but I only use one and a half. I do the same thing in relationships I have such a hard time erasing the data and this stunts any growth. By data I mean I have a hard time moving on from disagreements, arguments and other negative things that occur.
Just last week as I finished my catalogue that has been in the making for three years I realized he only way I succeeded to finish was because I removed all the designs that I didn't get a "Wow!" over. I love every single design I create but I had to learn to let some go so I can let the trully strong ones shine.
Here is the cover of my catalogue it should be online in a week or so, please check it out and see my entire collection.
One of the reasons we as people cheat, lie, become selfish, envious, jealous and more is because we are not happy with what we become dissatisfied with what we have and want to reach for more. It is okay to reach for more, but not until you have let go that which is no longer enough.
In the past few days I have reaching deep inside and pulling out the seeds of contempt that I had towards my father for my childhood. I label them contempt because it's not hate, it was more a dislike of the path he chose and still chooses when it comes to being a father. I have been cleaning out the closet and trying to love him with no contempt like I once did when he would let me sit on his lap and pretend to drive. That was just before I turned 6 and he dropped me off at boarding school, forever!
Whether or not I can repair our relationship I don't know, but in life we always want to make sure we show and tell those we love exactly how we feel so they can choose with a full understanding of your position.
Today I let go, or should I say am trying to let go. It's just that easy to start healing...
Hope! Faith! Love!
Bless
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Sunday, August 17, 2008
Just Let Go....
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